Relationship Advice for Men Looking at Evolution to Find a Mate

What is the best relationship advice for men?  What are men suppose know if they want a relationship to work for the long haul?

Possibly the single biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to stop listening to what women say they want and start observing what women actually display that they want.

How do they exhibit what they want?  It is as straightforward as observing what kind of men they choose.

Women say “I want a man who listens to me.”  They select the man who dominates the conversation.  Women say, “I want a guy with a good sense of humor.”  They date the guy who has money.

Why do women state they want one thing but actually go out with a guy who is just the opposite?  The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together.  And, in that lies my relationship advice for men.

The historical, biological basis for men and women to get together is to propagate the species.  In other words, just because getting pregnant might be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, she’s still looking for a good father for her children.

Is the good dad someone who listens to her?  No, it is someone who will provide for her children.  And, the person who can provide for her children is someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.

Women require men who can be good providers.  While a man can generate thousands of sperm on recurring occasions throughout their adult lives, even into their 90’s, women have about 400 chances of producing a baby.  As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies.

A man who tells a women he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a superior chance of landing her.  That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children. 

But having a high income is not enough.  A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children.  That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.

It may also be why the engagement ring must be such a big purchase.  When you ask a woman to marry you, you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that you can provide for her and her children.

Further, even though modern humans make money more from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide.  That’s why, even when there is evidence to the contrary in the form of a tax return, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.

So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary point of view and give it to her.